Indeed, Jae, everything is a trade-off. And regarding not-honesty, I was thinking more of “not-honesty by omission” than I was of “dishonest-inclusion”. The set of things we do tell others is a very small set, compared to the things we don’t (or can’t) tell. Not-told things is a huge spectrum from “dangerous to my personal safety if I tell”, to “inappropriate at the present time”, to “inappropriate always between mature adults”, to “I feel it, but can’t at the moment figure out how to express it”, to “my soul is a fathomless wellspring, and so is yours, so much of each of our souls will never be expressed before we die”, and many others for which you can fill in the blank, through introspection. I think your choice to share your recent struggles and emotional pain caused me to think, “Even though Jae is a cyber-friend who I’ll probably never meet, the computer geek in me says that somehow, this is real, this is important, I can respond to Jae in a supportive manner and maybe, thereby, be a kind of supplement to her face-to-face friends. If I can’t, or don’t, then what the heck is the importance or meaning of all this cyber-communication stuff?) (The physicist in me says the answer is it’s just a bunch of electrons moving around.) I think we all go through peaks and valleys, times when we’re “up” and have excess positive psychic energy to lend or give to others who are “down” and in need, and times when we’re “down” and in need of someone else’s excess of positive psychic energy. It seems the importance of all this “multiple human lives living in parallel” is that, with a sufficiently large group of friends, when you’re “down”, there’s a good chance that at least one of your friends will be “up” and able to lend or give support. So, thank you for sharing your recent negatives and thus allowing me the opportunity to reach out in support, to make this cyber-world more real and more meaningful. There’ll come a time when I’m “down” and in need of my friends, too. Lately, that’s been happening a few times a month.