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A Series of Things:
What I'm doing, not doing, and hoping to do

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on September 26, 2020 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 26, 2020

Series writing has been a thorn in my side. I know the consensus is that books do better as a part of a series, but when you’re an Indie Author and Publisher with no employees, choices must be made. I don’t feel I can keep up anymore with my series, nor do I want to. I also don’t like feeling obligated to write something. I’d rather write what inspires me at any given moment. With this in mind, my intentions are to do one more book in each of my series: #3 in New Harbor Witches #4 in Rain Falls … Continue reading →

Posted in coping skills, independent author, Apocalyptic, sensitivity, dystopian genre, depression, WRITING, coronavirus, elections, Xanax, COVID-19, fear, Writer's Block, Ban Mercy, angst, novelwriting, The Rona, disillusionment, reality, The Reichers, Kelli Jae Baeli, Fiction Writing, and The Rez, BOOKS, adventure genre, Zoloft, WRITING LIFE, democracy, anxiety | Leave a reply

Furiously Happy:
My brain hungered for humor. Was absolutely famished for fun.

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on August 24, 2020 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 11, 2020

I am very picky about the books I read, and it’s hard to find anything that doesn’t either piss me off or bore me. That might just be a product of having been an Indie Author, honing her craft for 30 years, or maybe it’s just me being too damn critical. But I never had problems in my younger years. Like say, my twenties and before. But then, I didn’t write my first book until I was 26. So maybe it really is that being an author affects my ability to enjoy reading other authors that aren’t top-notch. Garbage in, … Continue reading →

Posted in sensitivity, Lets Pretend This Never Happened, writer, Social Psychology, reading, harsh realities, ENTERTAINMENT, mental illness, reality, self-awareness, memoir genre, depression, novelist, CURRENT AFFAIRS, stress, BOOKS, coping skills, WRITING CRAFT, WRITING LIFE, Humor genre, distraction, anxiety, Book review, happiness, despair, Jenny Lawson, desperation, Depressive Realism, Furiously Happy, Social anxiety | Leave a reply

Bad Knees & Deliveries

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on February 6, 2020 by Kelli Jae BaeliNovember 3, 2020

Okay, so my day so far: Because the VA again dropped the ball on my healthcare, I had to order my own crutches, knee braces, and Kinesiotape to treat my MCL/ACL issues. I saw that they were to be delivered on Friday, not Wednesday. So I get on chat with Amazon (which I really hard to find. They bury it very well) and asked why I pay for Prime membership to get 2-day shipping, when the shipping always seems to take 5-days. They explained about warehouses and that it’s really counted from when it leaves, not when I order it, … Continue reading →

Posted in problem-solving, crutches, HEALTH, kinesio tape, disability, COMPANIES & BRANDS, harsh realities, Amazon, bad customer service, injury, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, coping skills, adaptation, frustration, MCL-ACL, aggravation, knees | Leave a reply

It’s a Brave New World–For Women:
I call it FemFic

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on August 23, 2018 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 10, 2020

I want a new category on Amazon that more accurately reflects the changes afoot in our ideation of a woman’s place in the world. In order to do this, I feel I have to branch out in my writing and create stories in genres that are typically male-dominated. Women need in a voice in those, too. Thus, I will be adding this new tag to all my books. I call it #FemFic. I hope all of you in the Twitterverse will use it, too–help get it going. IF it can gain traction, i will petition Amazon to include it in … Continue reading →

Posted in ethics, reality, hope, coping skills, Kelli Jae Baeli, genre categories, self-awareness, courage, WRITING LIFE, TerraNeo, independent author, Snug Haven, Human Nature, indie publisher, feminism, women, characters, responsibility, reading, self-respect, Social Psychology, society, novelwriting | Tagged FemFic | 2 Replies

Simple Procedures I Get to Sleep Through

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on April 11, 2017 by Kelli Jae BaeliAugust 5, 2017

Today, I had a dentist appointment, to get a tooth pulled and cavities filled. That’s what I get for avoiding dentists for–what? 15 years? I’ve been fortunate, since I have always enjoyed healthy teeth, but I should have gone to a few of those appointments along the way. I accept the mantel of shame in that regard. We had to go to Springfield, so we didn’t get home until evening. When I laid back in the awesome Chair-I-Wish-I-Had-at-Home, It soon became apparent that they were not sure why I was there. Seems the VA had not sent over the records of the checkup … Continue reading →

Posted in TRAVEL, anxiety, coping skills, dental, hysterectomy, Uncategorized, courage, surgery, fear, phobias, gynecology, GYN | 2 Replies

Nom Nom Nom de Plume

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on March 22, 2017 by Kelli Jae BaeliNovember 3, 2020

How delicious. To be someone else. To reinvent oneself. I’m not talking about who you are at your core, but about characteristics that might not be serving you anymore. I’ve done it several times over, and not only with names. As long ago as my early twenties, I began referring to myself and introducing myself to others by another name. Eventually, it led me to legally change it. Psychologically, that was one of the best decisions I ever made for my health. I maintain that the name-change wasn’t running AWAY from something, but running TO. Seeking identity. I wanted to … Continue reading →

Posted in metaphor, adventure, Kelli Jae Baeli, courage, SCIENCE, coping skills, self-awareness, Operation Homestead, evolution, Uncategorized, need, life, Relocation, problem-solving, TRAVEL, happiness, PHILOSOPHY, PSYCHOLOGY, novelwriting, change, critics | Leave a reply

Heavy Cream

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on November 12, 2016 by Kelli Jae BaeliAugust 5, 2017

Says right there, it’s heavy. And yet it rises to the top. There are heavy hearts. Heavy minds. But it says right there it’s heavy and yet it rises to the top. Be the cream, my people.  Be. The. Cream. #bethecream Save

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Posted in Social anxiety, Social Psychology, coping skills | Leave a reply

Being a Delicate Organism

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on September 8, 2013 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 9, 2017

Highly Sensitive People are, as the moniker suggests, acutely aware of stimuli. Which is one reason I prefer the designation of Highly Aware Person. HAP. I’m a Hap. A Happy. Sounds much better to me than being called “Highly Sensitive” which carries with it a rather pejorative tint. But HSP is the most commonly used acronym in reference to us, and so I feel a bit obligated to use it. HSPs are often aware of sensory input that others miss. We are about 20% of the population, and this Sensory Processing Sensitivity is found in around 100 other species, as … Continue reading →

Posted in courage, RELATIONSHIPS, moving, coping skills, Behavior, triggers, problem-solving, Relocation, quirks, strength, Human Nature, Sensory Processing Sensitivity, chaos, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP), PSYCHOLOGY, personality, change, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, DOMESTICA, EMOTIONS, stress, harsh realities, sacrifice, life, crisis | 2 Replies

Oh Victory in Earworms (A Melodious Malady)

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on June 25, 2013 by Kelli Jae BaeliMay 3, 2018

Kelli Jae Baeli #IronyoftheDay I’m an atheist, & yet I woke up with a HYMN stuck in my head. I’d pray to God to make it stop, but then, well. You know. Pasted from <https://www.facebook.com/jaebaeli> Yeah, that was my status update this morning. It’s bad enough, when you just get a regular song stuck in your head, but for an ATHEIST to get a HYMN lodged up in that looping track? Not just the insipid sycophantic melody those tunes always have, but the actual content of the lyrics, the sentiments inherent in hymnal/gospel music, et al; it’s sandpaper against every … Continue reading →

Posted in RELIGION, dreams, atheist humor, life, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, CREATIVITY, Songwriting, PSYCHOLOGY, music, mind, coping skills, Google, dreams, SCIENCE, novelist, frustration, PEEVES, intelligence, music, HUMOR | Tagged earworms, dreamscape | Leave a reply

Positive Anchoring, Honesty & Humor

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on November 22, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 11, 2013

Sometimes we have to come up with clever solutions to problems. Three of my most cherished and successful coping skills have been Positive Anchoring, honesty and humor. One of the situations that is particularly challenging is being nervous in social situations. For an HSP, it’s doubly hard and it happens far more often. We often find ourselves overwhelmed by that date we have with someone we’re attracted to. We can spoil an entire evening with the handwringing and insecure self-talk going on in our heads. We can spill our drinks, say something insipid or insulting, or just panic, make up … Continue reading →

Posted in DRUGS, Xanax, Social anxiety, Social Psychology, honesty, PHILOSOPHY, self-awareness, EMOTIONS, anxiety, coping skills, Sensory Processing Sensitivity, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP), RELATIONSHIPS, quirks, sensitivity, PSYCHOLOGY, panic | Tagged dry erase board, performing, performance anxiety, insecurity, Positive Anchoring | 2 Replies

Vamoosing

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on March 29, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 11, 2013

Suspended my Netflix account. Still packing, desperately needing boxes. Downstairs, I pulled up everything in that storage room, which was the contents brought so far from storage when I actually thought I was going to be living here permanently, and her mother had finally moved, so I could do that. But only after we had ripped up the carpet down there and cleaned the unbelievable nastiness her mother lived in. bleach fumes, up and down stairs, aching body. I realized I would have to leave some things behind because it wouldn’t fit in my car or in storage, and I … Continue reading →

Posted in Human Nature, Facebook, lies, aggravation, harsh realities, LAW, Driving, Relocation, disillusionment, life, mental illness, court, fear, U-Haul, abuse, PHILOSOPHY, RELATIONSHIPS, crisis, arrest, friendship, TRAVEL, anger, Sociology, fatigue, moving, angst, storage, betrayal, cats, pain, Colorado, chaos, domestic partnership, sadness, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, conflict, singlehood, disability, EMOTIONS, problem-solving, herniated disc, desperation, domestic violence, police, CURRENT AFFAIRS, exes, liars, PSYCHOLOGY, stairs, sacrifice, experience, injury, HEALTH, anxiety, frustration, money, courage, lesbians, PEEVES, change, strength, depression, DOMESTICA, coping skills | Tagged Netflix, packing, victim, probation, loss, credit, breakups, cowardice, hotel | Leave a reply

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"People feel removed from sexism. 'I'm not a sexist, but I'm not a feminist.' They think there's this fuzzy middle ground. There's no fuzzy middle ground. You either believe that women are people or you don't. It's that simple." (Joss Whedon)

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