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Fish Should Learn to Walk

Posted on February 29, 2012 by Kelli Jae BaeliFebruary 29, 2012

I think I’ve moved past my most recent dark night of the soul. This time it took about 7 weeks. Had a couple of things go my way, though, (finding a new apartment to move to, which I love), and an online relationship deepening into intriguing and exciting possibilities….possibilities that become pissabilities…As is the trend with my life, I don’t get anything good without an addendum of aggravation or disappointment. Some reminder that no, fortune does not often smile on me and the Luck Fairies either have a millennium-old vendetta against my soul, have no GPS, or are somewhat retarded. … Continue reading →

Posted in chemistry, dating, depression, hope, Internet, Internet Dating, irony, lesbians, love, luck, RELATIONSHIPS, romance, universe, women, writer | 6 Replies

Virtual Strangers (a Play in One Act)

Posted on December 26, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMay 29, 2014

FADE IN: INT. – POPULAR SINGLES BAR – NIGHT In a bar specifically for singles who are seeking partners. patrons mill about, as is normal for most social establishments. But they are all moving about inside a white cardboard box. On the outside of the boxes, there is text. Each of them is also wearing a bag over their head.The text on the boxes is information about themselves. A profile. Sometimes there’s only one line of text, sometimes the surface of the boxes is filled up with a great deal of detail.One Boxed & Bagged person approaches another. B&B1 Hi. … Continue reading →

Posted in Attraction, dating, evergreen, harsh realities, honesty, HUMOR, RELATIONSHIPS, singlehood, social politics, Social Psychology, socializing, society, strangers, trust, truth, women, WRITING | Tagged bag, box, nightmare dates | 1 Reply

Letter to a Battered Heart

Posted on November 29, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

Open letter to a friend whose heart is battered…. I remember that you were there for me when I was going through a lot and had no one. So I will do my best to be here for you, now. In this life, you have to separate your mental and emotional things, your habits, your beliefs–like laundry. Whites over there, colors over there, delicates there. You can’t throw them all in together or the colors will bleed and what was once pure and white is now sullied. Some things must be kept apart, some things put together, and you always … Continue reading →

Posted in anger, angst, anxiety, Behavior, betrayal, celibacy, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, communication, conflict, courage, dating, depression, despair, desperation, disillusionment, EMOTIONS, ENTERTAINMENT, exes, experience, fear, friendship, frustration, girlfriends, grief, growth, guilt, happiness, harsh realities, honesty, hope, Human Nature, intimacy, Jonatha Brooke, Kelli Jae Baeli, lesbians, lies, life, loneliness, love, meaning, music, PHILOSOPHY, PSYCHOLOGY, reality, reason, RELATIONSHIPS, romance, sadness, self-awareness, self-respect, sensitivity, SEXUALITY, Social anxiety, Social Psychology, socializing, stress, truth, women | Leave a reply

FWPB

Posted on November 29, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

Sometimes we forget the gray areas. The innocuous middle ground that is so often overlooked because it doesn’t scream at us like the extremes do. It’s why certain things are overlooked; like the independent voters, the agnostics, reputable, stable, feminine lesbians, and the middle class. It had occurred to me that sexuality holds its own equidistant region. We have often heard of that relational designation of fuck-buddy (FB), and the other one of Friends with Benefits (FWB), but I contend there is another. The one in the gray area, which has remained undefined, and perhaps under-utilized… FWPB. Friends With Partial … Continue reading →

Posted in dating, evergreen, friendship, fuckbuddies, girlfriends, HUMOR, intimacy, lesbians, loneliness, RELATIONSHIPS, romance, sex, women | Tagged friends with benefits | Leave a reply

Agnosco veteris vestigia flammae–I feel once more the scars of the old flame…

Posted on November 13, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

Most things for me, now, are in the context of being an HSP. My Sensory Processing Sensitivity is a brain architecture that will never change. It is part of me as much as DNA or eye color or ethnic origins. I know that one of my main weaknesses in this life, is that I don’t do well as a single person, and by extension, I don’t do well sexless. Those needs get in the way of my common sense in evaluating the character of some women. So I have been so bold as to place ads on adult sites, seeking … Continue reading →

Posted in angst, anxiety, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, Colorado, dating, depression, Depressive Realism, desperation, friendship, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP), intimacy, lesbians, life, loneliness, love, midlife crisis, PSYCHOLOGY, RELATIONSHIPS, romance, self-awareness, Sensory Processing Sensitivity, sex, SEXUALITY, Social Psychology, socializing, stress, triggers | Leave a reply

Hanging the Moon and Lesbian Monikers

Posted on November 3, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

I placed another personal ad on Craigslist. Hopefully this won’t turn into a freak-fest like it did last time. And if it does, well, more material for my writing. LOL. The Ad I used before was way more humorous, but I was afraid it might be overwhelming and make ME look a little crazy. Who knows? Here’s the one I used before: Only seek LOCAL friends & dates. Please & thank you. LDR’s are usually doomed from the start. It’s like being pecked to death by chickens. So not big on them unless you can afford to travel to date … Continue reading →

Posted in angst, anxiety, Book Excerpt, BOOKS, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, dating, desperation, disillusionment, EMOTIONS, gender-confusion, gender-identity, harsh realities, honesty, HUMOR, Internet Dating, ISO (In Search Of), lesbians, life, lipstick lesbians, loneliness, midlife crisis, nonfiction, personal ads, PHILOSOPHY, PSYCHOLOGY, RELATIONSHIPS, sadness, sex, SEXUALITY, Social anxiety, social politics, Social Psychology, socializing, SOCIOLOGY, Valentine's Day, women | Tagged chapstick lesbians, craigslist, femepicene | 6 Replies

Coffee Skin

Posted on September 24, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliNovember 29, 2011

My coffee has a skin again. I keep my mug on an old coffeemaker masquerading as a hot plate because I like my coffee to remain highly warm while I sip it throughout my morning. And afternoon. And sometimes evening… depending on when I get up. Which is always a malleable enterprise for those with Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome. I also have Coining Of Nomenclature Syndrome (C.O.N.S.), except this time I’m not guilty of it. DSPS really exists. Although when I first saw the abbreviation, I thought it stood for -Dating & Sex Postal Service –this is how I intend … Continue reading →

Posted in coffee, dating, HUMOR, sex | Tagged Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome, DSPS | 2 Replies

Kindred Romance

Posted on July 29, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 11, 2013

This is a bit retroactive, but felt I should post something…. I‘m almost afraid to say it.  I think I’ve finally met someone normal. Stable. Real. A Kindred.    After the debacle of my last relationship, i am quite gun shy, and yet, this woman has managed to get around my defenses. It’s so easy to be in her company. Everything just seems to flow smoothly. It’s effortless to spend time with her, and I find myself feeling genuinely happy whenever she’s around. Kelly and I have been dating 3 to 4 times per week for the last month–long, all-nighters … Continue reading →

Posted in Attraction, chemistry, dating, Driving, EMOTIONS, happiness, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP), hope, kindred, lesbians, RELATIONSHIPS, romance, socializing, SOCIOLOGY, TRAVEL | Leave a reply

8 Things I Learned From my Last Relationship

Posted on June 26, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliDecember 6, 2011

  [1] Proving your level of commitment should never entail losing who you are, putting yourself in danger, or turning over control of your money, your bills, or your happiness [2] If you don’t naturally and easily fit into a persons life, nor they into yours, is either not right or not right now [3] No matter how honest or stable a person may seem, you cannot be sure about it in only a few months [4] If a person shares a home with her mother and is not caring for her due to illness or disability, do not move … Continue reading →

Posted in Attraction, chemistry, commitment, communication, dating, domestic partnership, girlfriends, intimacy, romance, sex | Leave a reply

Tell Me About Yourself

Posted on June 4, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliJune 4, 2011

When I’m single, and meeting new women, dating and searching for that special someone who will fit harmoniously into my life, I often come across women who say “Tell me about yourself.” I hate that question. Not because i can’t talk about myself, or am not self-actualized enough to be able to communicate my identity, but because it’s like standing in a library and someone asking, “What’s in all those books?” I usually have the urge to refer them to my books, or blogs, or music or art. Then they say, “I don’t want to look at your art, or … Continue reading →

Posted in art, CREATIVITY, dating, honesty, identity, music, WRITING CRAFT | 4 Replies

Regrettable Profile of the Day: "In My Late Fourty"

Posted on May 31, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

This is an actual profile on a dating site for LESBIANS.  My self-summary IM IN MY LATE FOURTY I HAVE BLUE EYES 6 FOOT AND WAS MARRIED FOR 13 YEARS AND LOST MY SPOUSE IN 09 AND IM EASY GOING WOMAN LOOKING FOR A FRIEND FIRST AND THEN A LONG TERM RELACTION SHIPAND HAVE NOT BEEN WITH ANYONE IN OVER ABOUT 2 YEARS AND LOVE TO GET OUT AND START DATING AND ENJOY MY NEW LIFE AND SEE WHAT PATH IM ON AND LOOKING FOR A SWEETMAN AND LAID BACK I LIKE COUNTRY MUSIC AND I LIKE PRO FOOTBALL BRONCOS … Continue reading →

Posted in annoying people, bad writing, BRAIN, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, dating, diction, disillusionment, EMOTIONS, ENTERTAINMENT, harsh realities, HUMOR, ignorance, Internet, lesbians, life, personal ads, profiles, PSYCHOLOGY, quirks, RELATIONSHIPS, self-awareness, SEXUALITY, Social Psychology, SOCIOLOGY, spelling, Stupidity, WRITING CRAFT | Leave a reply

New Review of ISO

Posted on March 10, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

  Another review on my book “ISO (In Search Of): Dating, Relationships & Sex for the Discerning Lesbian”… “Whether you are a ‘baby dyke’, a newly out older woman or someone who has just been away from the ‘dating scene’ for a time, this book is an essential tool in your belt. Not only does Ms. Baeli provide thought provoking answers to all those obvious questions we all have, but you might find some information here about scenarios you had never even considered. Read it cover to cover or jump to the section you’re most interested in, either way you … Continue reading →

Posted in AUTHORS, BOOKS, dating, GENRES, HUMOR, Internet Dating, ISO (In Search Of), Kelli Jae Baeli, lesbians, memoir genre, nonfiction, PSYCHOLOGY, RELATIONSHIPS, romance, romance-genre, sex, SEXUALITY, Social Psychology, socializing, women | Leave a reply

Awkward.

Posted on March 28, 2010 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

Saturday, I was to meet this woman at Metropolis (for the first time). When I stepped inside, a woman waiting at the counter turned, smiled at me and came toward me, as i said, “Rhonda?” (Not just as a courtesy, but because I couldn’t believe this was her. She didn’t look like her photo). But she said “yes” and shook my hand. We chatted– awkward small talk– as I was trying to get over the fact that she was NOTHING like I thought she’d be. And she was tall and lanky and her voice was odd. Too low. She even looked … Continue reading →

Posted in awkwardness, dating, HUMOR, lesbians, life, personal ads, SEXUALITY, social politics, socializing, society, SOCIOLOGY | Tagged first meeting | Leave a reply

Fat Chance: Lament of a Transplanted Single

Posted on February 24, 2010 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

Before moving here, I never had to worry about what my friends thought of me. They knew me. Sometimes for 10 or 20 years–a few of them longer than that. And I was in relationships usually. Serial monogamist. So I didn’t have to worry about the impression I made, or if I was going to get laid anytime soon, or whether there was someone to confide in, play with…now, it’s all new. New State, new city, new people, and SINGLE, though not NEWLY SINGLE. Aside from a five month relationship, I’ve been single for what? 4 or 5 years? Add … Continue reading →

Posted in Aging, angst, anxiety, Attraction, awkwardness, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, change, chemistry, dating, desperation, disability, disillusionment, EMOTIONS, fat, frustration, harsh realities, Internet Dating, lesbians, life, loneliness, love, midlife crisis, moving, Relocation, sadness, sex, SEXUALITY, singlehood, socializing, stress, women | Tagged Army, diet, fat chance | Leave a reply

Virtual Strangers (a Play in One Act)

Posted on January 13, 2010 by Kelli Jae BaeliDecember 5, 2011

FADE IN: INT. – POPULAR SINGLES BAR – NIGHT In a bar specifically for singles who are seeking partners. patrons mill about, as is normal for most social establishments. But they are all moving about inside a white cardboard box. On the outside of the boxes, there is text. Each of them is also wearing a bag over their head.The text on the boxes is information about themselves. A profile. Sometimes there’s only one line of text, sometimes the surface of the boxes is filled up with a great deal of detail.One Boxed & Bagged person approaches another. B&B1 Hi. … Continue reading →

Posted in dating, HUMOR, profiles, RELATIONSHIPS, strangers | Tagged play | Leave a reply

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