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  1. Wow, Jae. I’ve been reading stuff all around this website, taking myself wherever my mouse clicks seem to take me, and here I land, at least for now. Everything (well, almost everything) I’ve read so far at your website here has been revealing of you for me, but at the moment, I feel I’m really glad I read this one. I think we have some things in common. My approach to femininity, as a transwoman, is definitely to appear to others as someone whose gender they can’t quite put their muddled brain-finger on, but definitely leaning toward “woman”. It’s a stealth or subtle approach, deliberately (maybe passively-agressively) challenging their simplistic “gender binary” world-view. As a matter of fact, a book I’m currently reading is a collection of case studies where the author’s intent is to point out that both the non-trans AND the trans communities “get it wrong” with regard to what he seems to advocate, which is an utterly complete removal of the gender binary from one’s consciousness. The book is “Disciplining Gender” by John Sloop. For me, it seems that many transwomen stress themselves over attempting to completely “pass” in public, meaning essentially no one would be able to “guess” that their birth gender was male. I’m not going to stress myself in that way, but that said, I love to dress and appear feminine, with the use of clothing and the whole suite of makeup, from moisturizer to foundation and powder and blush to eyebrow liner and mascara and eye shadow and eyeliner and lipstick.

    • Thanks for your words. I can’t pretend to understand anything on a visceral level that I haven’t felt or experienced. All I can do is encourage honesty and the pursuit of happiness. I appreciate your intelligence and the time you took to write the comment. I wish you all the best of everything.

    • Thanks so much. People often ask me how I can be so revealing of myself…and I just have to say that we are all humans having the same experience and there’s no sense in pretending we are immune to life’s challenges..

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