I’m not so vain as to think that any of you were despondent that i haven’t been on this site much lately…so i won’t apologize for my absence. I’ve been myspaced-out for a while, fighting their stubborn coding problems… maybe it’s my tiny little control issue in regard to my own work….it’s way more time-effective than trying to conquer the Myspace Coding Beast…wow…i need some coffee, i’m rambling like a tumbleweed….
anyway, what have I been up to? Well,
I’ve been in and out of a relationship. It took 6 months to realize that we were not suitable partners. I had high hopes, but alas. She is a lovely, sweet person, and we remain friends.
Thoughts on that: I no longer suspect, but rather am convinced, that the only way to find and keep the right partner for yourself, is to adhere to the tenets of Old Fashioned Dating, Here’s the deal: it has been proven that a person cannot put up a facade–be something they are not–for longer than 3 to 4 months. Therefore, if you date a person (note, i didn’t say “live with” or “shack up”) for that period of time, you will begin to see anything that they have been hiding from you, i.e., you will see the deal-breakers and red flags. Ideally, you will be able to see the red flags and deal breakers before that, but just know that if someone is determined to be something they are not, their facade will not be able to hold past that point. (For more on this subject, buy my book–ISO (In Search Of: Dating, Relationships, and Sex for the Discerning Lesbian. Available now where quality books are sold; that is to say, jaebaeli.com). Similar to this, is the “17 Dates Method” (credit to Justice Harlow) wherein, if want to really get to know someone, agree to go out on 17 dates. In that amount of time, you will have learned all you need to learn and will know the person in many different situations, and around many different types of people…so these two methods seem to work well together. It is my intention to stick to this during this round of singlehood…my best friend and i are finally single at the same time, so we’re going to do this as a team (not that she will go on all my dates with me, but…um…you know.)
I’ve been writing a lot too. I now have 9 books and one screenplay published. (with LightSwitcher Books), and am still searching for a good agent and a mainstream publisher. I fired one agency in New York because i wasn’t happy with the way they did business. I am in the middle of my brand new mainstream novel, “Baggage” right now. It’s about a family whose lives are swirled around by the events of Hurricane Katrina, and how these lives intersect with other lives, and how we all have our own baggage: lies, deception, secrets…. (Okay, so i haven’t worked out the blurb, yet, but there ya go).
Thoughts on that: Unless you’re on the bestseller lists and Oprah and other spotlight venues, you are largely ignored as a writer. It costs money to market yourself, and there’s a million bad writers out there mucking it up for the rest of us. And Writing isn’t easy. But i love it. I must be a glutton for punishment.
I recently began a phone job as an intuitive counselor/life coach kinda person. I only have time to do that part time, though, and it remains to be seen if that will be good enough for the company. I like the idea of helping people, though.
Thoughts on that: it seems that most of the women who call me are some version of fucked up. Most of the men that call me are trying to understand the fucked up women.
I’ve rededicated my attention to the Law of Attraction and the Power of Intention.
Thoughts on that: Since we know that miraculous things happen in our bodies, sheerly in response to our thoughts (see this article for a fabulous exposition on this topic), it is not so magical to believe that our thoughts are things. They are things that can make things happen. The Law of Attraction has recently been repackaged as “The Secret” but it’s not really a secret. It’s been around a very long time. Even in the eighties, a channel was imparting this information (google or P2P abraham hicks). I’ve already been given many signs that the Law of Attraction works…but it seems there are 2 tricks to it: (1) You have to manifest in terms of the present; like if you say “my dream girl is right around the next corner…” then what happens is, your dream girl is right around the next corner…always…never the corner you’ve just turned, but the NEXT one. You have to make statements like: “My dream girl is in my life right now” or even, “I will meet my dream girl by the Fourth of July” and (2) You have to place yourself in the emotion you would be having, when your desire is reality. Now, some of us have trouble cranking up an emotion for something that. To our linear-time-imprisoned minds, is not real to us. According to Unified Field Theory and Quantum physics, everything exists RIGHT NOW. I have mentioned before in other writings, that i am not naturally a visual person…my brain operates from emotional memory, and emotion itself, so visualizing is not something i do well without great concentration ( this is a whole other topic i touch on in ISO and in My Friend the Synesthete) although, i have surprised myself on my counseling job when i told people things that came to me, and it turned out to be true–spooky, really. So one thing I’ve been doing to get around the visualization gap, is to listen to music that makes me feel happy or joyous…then i begin to think of those things i desire while in that state. I hope it proves effective…we’ll see.
I’m trying to get a Hen Party started here, (Bella Vista) and if any of you live in the area and wish to participate, please let me know. Hens only, no roosters.
Thoughts on that: Hens can lay eggs WITH NO HELP from a rooster. Modern science can already fertilized a human egg WITHOUT sperm….it’s only a matter of time before we’ll only need men to lift heavy things…we’re due for a matriarchy anyway.
My best friend is also recently singled, as i said, and we’ve made a pact. We will be dating as much as possible (other people, not each other ) and having as much fun as we can over the next year (while being open to those perfect lifemates/partners who are just waiting to find us).
Thoughts on that: if you’ve read any of my profiles and feel we would enjoy each other’s company, please, contact me.
I’m about to begin recording my 3rd CD, too, entitled “Feng Shui Tragedy.”
Thoughts on that: note that i said, “about to begin…” That means i keep turning on my 16 track digital recorder, marveling at how cool it is, and thinking about how many songs i have to choose from, and then losing the mood and turning it back off.
Okay, I’m refilling my coffee. Stay tuned.