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Two 2020 Mantras:
Adapt or die, Vote or die

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on May 18, 2020 by Kelli Jae BaeliMay 18, 2020

ADAPT OR DIE. That’s the new mantra. Our world has changed, and don’t you believe for a hot minute the fairy tale that things will go back to “normal.” First, they haven’t been “normal” for the last three-plus years. Second, there is no way they ever will, because too much has changed, and there are things that SHOULD CHANGE. This is a flashpoint. A pivotal point in our history. We can take the opportunity now to implement all those things that got bogged down in various sociopolitical quicksands, and create a brighter future for us all. Or we can fuck … Continue reading →

Posted in sadness, donald trump, danger, angst, betrayal, money, COVID19, panic, chaos, adaptation, terrorism, coronavirus, risk, desperation, racism, honesty, frustration, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, change, Climate Change, harsh realities, SOCIOPOLITICAL, CURRENT AFFAIRS, responsibility, Planet Earth, death, aggravation, US Constitution, disillusionment, Native Americans, crisis, life, Founding Fathers, voting, 2nd Amendment, grief, problem-solving, democracy, anger, fascism, anxiety, Human Nature, courage, ethics, equality, despair, elections, immigration, morality, pandemic, strength, fear, education | Leave a reply

Thoughts Before the Knife

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on May 24, 2017 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 11, 2020

I am terrified. I am courageous. I have braved so many things that terrified me. Things I thought I’d never survive. And here I am, “having survove.” I understand that my fear is born of the unknown, where the most potent fear often makes camp. While this is a brand new experience that has no equal, no comparison, I know more now about what is happening to me than I ever have before. And each time I learn more, I have one more tool in my tote to get this job done. I say frequently that You have to be … Continue reading →

Posted in GYN, anxiety, strength, stress, courage, life, menopause, surgery, hysterectomy, meaning, fear, hope, harsh realities, gynecology | Leave a reply

Nom Nom Nom de Plume

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on March 22, 2017 by Kelli Jae BaeliNovember 3, 2020

How delicious. To be someone else. To reinvent oneself. I’m not talking about who you are at your core, but about characteristics that might not be serving you anymore. I’ve done it several times over, and not only with names. As long ago as my early twenties, I began referring to myself and introducing myself to others by another name. Eventually, it led me to legally change it. Psychologically, that was one of the best decisions I ever made for my health. I maintain that the name-change wasn’t running AWAY from something, but running TO. Seeking identity. I wanted to … Continue reading →

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Operation Homostead & Dooflingywhatsit

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on February 24, 2017 by Kelli Jae BaeliAugust 5, 2017

While I’m battling The Change of Life, we are also dealing with A Change of Life. Major changes on the horizon, all of which we have chosen for ourselves, which of course, makes it easier to weather. Our decision to make homesteading our goal, had to begin with all the preliminaries. Where? When? How? We know we want to settle in central Wisconsin, mostly because Melissa is from that area, and around Chicago, and her family is all there. She needs to be close to her grandmother, who is well into her 90’s and has had some health scares. But Melissa has … Continue reading →

Posted in Kelli Jae Baeli, sacrifice, DOMESTICA, courage, frustration, harsh realities, menopause, aggravation, moving, stress, Relocation, life, TRAVEL, problem-solving, anxiety, experience, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP), growth, risk, change, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, hope, marriage | 2 Replies

Fiction as World View

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on October 2, 2015 by Kelli Jae BaeliAugust 5, 2017

I have had some criticism from a few readers who were disappointed when I introduced new characters and locations and plots in my series fiction, and allowed the main characters to have a slightly smaller role to make room; apparently these readers wanted the same story again, the same characters, the same sex scenes, the same dynamics, the same formulaic challenges, the same everything. Essentially, they wanted to read about characters who lived in a vacuum, and never had any interaction with others, nor any natural progression. This mindset is not only elitist, fearful, and unrealistic, but within fiction, stale, … Continue reading →

Posted in Human Nature, courage, writer, plot, truth, willful ignorance, honesty, WRITING, happiness, harsh realities, Social Psychology, meaning, novelist, PHILOSOPHY, fear, BOOKS, novelwriting, PSYCHOLOGY, WRITING LIFE, plotting, change, mainstream fiction genre, reality, novels, independent author, frustration, Lesbian fiction genre, ethics, indie publisher, life, lesfic genre, hope, Willing Suspension of Disbelief, WRITING CRAFT, methodology, Kelli Jae Baeli, characters | Leave a reply

Don’t be part of the problem

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on September 4, 2014 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 4, 2014

If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem. We’ve all heard that mantra, but it’s true. Recently, I was caught at just the right moment (inopportune, maybe) by a post a “writer” made, asking for help with formatting, and lamenting how hard it was and wondering why she had to worry about it at all. Her posts throughout also revealed that she could not even handle a few sentences without making errors. And then there were all the commenters helping her like she was a child. So I posted an angry comment. I don’t like to … Continue reading →

Posted in disillusionment, WRITING, anger, critics, society, PUBLISHING, writer, courage, honesty, spelling, frustration, harsh realities, willful ignorance, WRITING CRAFT, WRITING LIFE, education, truth, independent author, angst, indie publisher, Political Correctness, bad writing, responsibility, editing | 2 Replies

Being a Delicate Organism

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on September 8, 2013 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 9, 2017

Highly Sensitive People are, as the moniker suggests, acutely aware of stimuli. Which is one reason I prefer the designation of Highly Aware Person. HAP. I’m a Hap. A Happy. Sounds much better to me than being called “Highly Sensitive” which carries with it a rather pejorative tint. But HSP is the most commonly used acronym in reference to us, and so I feel a bit obligated to use it. HSPs are often aware of sensory input that others miss. We are about 20% of the population, and this Sensory Processing Sensitivity is found in around 100 other species, as … Continue reading →

Posted in CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, DOMESTICA, EMOTIONS, stress, harsh realities, sacrifice, life, crisis, courage, RELATIONSHIPS, moving, coping skills, Behavior, triggers, problem-solving, Relocation, quirks, strength, Human Nature, Sensory Processing Sensitivity, chaos, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP), PSYCHOLOGY, personality, change | 2 Replies

Letter to a Battered Heart

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on November 29, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

Open letter to a friend whose heart is battered…. I remember that you were there for me when I was going through a lot and had no one. So I will do my best to be here for you, now. In this life, you have to separate your mental and emotional things, your habits, your beliefs–like laundry. Whites over there, colors over there, delicates there. You can’t throw them all in together or the colors will bleed and what was once pure and white is now sullied. Some things must be kept apart, some things put together, and you always … Continue reading →

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Vamoosing

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on March 29, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 11, 2013

Suspended my Netflix account. Still packing, desperately needing boxes. Downstairs, I pulled up everything in that storage room, which was the contents brought so far from storage when I actually thought I was going to be living here permanently, and her mother had finally moved, so I could do that. But only after we had ripped up the carpet down there and cleaned the unbelievable nastiness her mother lived in. bleach fumes, up and down stairs, aching body. I realized I would have to leave some things behind because it wouldn’t fit in my car or in storage, and I … Continue reading →

Posted in Human Nature, Facebook, lies, aggravation, harsh realities, LAW, Driving, Relocation, disillusionment, life, mental illness, court, fear, U-Haul, abuse, PHILOSOPHY, RELATIONSHIPS, crisis, arrest, friendship, TRAVEL, anger, Sociology, fatigue, moving, angst, storage, betrayal, cats, pain, Colorado, chaos, domestic partnership, sadness, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, conflict, singlehood, disability, EMOTIONS, problem-solving, herniated disc, desperation, domestic violence, police, CURRENT AFFAIRS, exes, liars, PSYCHOLOGY, stairs, sacrifice, experience, injury, HEALTH, anxiety, frustration, money, courage, lesbians, PEEVES, change, strength, depression, DOMESTICA, coping skills | Tagged Netflix, packing, victim, probation, loss, credit, breakups, cowardice, hotel | Leave a reply

More Atheists Shout It From the Rooftops (NYTimes)

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on November 19, 2009 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 10, 2013

More Atheists Shout It From the Rooftops By LAURIE GOODSTEIN Published: April 26, 2009 CHARLESTON, S.C. — Two months after the local atheist organization here put up a billboard saying “Don’t Believe in God? You Are Not Alone,” the group’s 13 board members met in Laura and Alex Kasman’s living room to grapple with the fallout. The problem was not that the group, the Secular Humanists of the Lowcountry, had attracted an outpouring of hostility. It was the opposite. An overflow audience of more than 100 had showed up for their most recent public symposium, and the board members discussed … Continue reading →

Posted in ATHEISM, freedom, Human Nature, truth, society, Sociology, reason, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, Social Psychology, myth, PHILOSOPHY, courage, RELIGION, reality | Tagged Flying Spaghetti Monster, New York Times, billboards, article, secular humanists, news, Pastafarians | Leave a reply

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