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Category Archives: self-respect

It’s a Brave New World–For Women:
I call it FemFic

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on August 23, 2018 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 10, 2020

I want a new category on Amazon that more accurately reflects the changes afoot in our ideation of a woman’s place in the world. In order to do this, I feel I have to branch out in my writing and create stories in genres that are typically male-dominated. Women need in a voice in those, too. Thus, I will be adding this new tag to all my books. I call it #FemFic. I hope all of you in the Twitterverse will use it, too–help get it going. IF it can gain traction, i will petition Amazon to include it in … Continue reading →

Posted in women, characters, responsibility, reading, self-respect, Social Psychology, society, novelwriting, ethics, reality, hope, coping skills, Kelli Jae Baeli, genre categories, self-awareness, courage, WRITING LIFE, TerraNeo, independent author, Snug Haven, Human Nature, indie publisher, feminism | Tagged FemFic | 2 Replies

Good Writers Aren’t Good Accidentally

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on April 22, 2014 by Kelli Jae BaeliSeptember 4, 2017

I received another message from a reader who wanted to know when the third book in the Rain Falls series would be available. And another reader who wanted to know when the 6th on the AKA Investigations series would be out. Though certain delays like my recent relocation to another country and health issues have slowed me down, I sometimes feel like readers think what we do is like making dinner. Granted, I wrote Rain Falls (my first bestseller!) and the sequel, In Absentia fairly quickly; and the last three in the AKA series were produced faster than usual. But … Continue reading →

Posted in novelist, writing business, WRITING LIFE, independent author, indie publisher, WRITING, frustration, novelwriting, WRITING CRAFT, PUBLISHING, self-respect, Fiction Writing, writer, harsh realities | 5 Replies

Letter to a Battered Heart

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on November 29, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

Open letter to a friend whose heart is battered…. I remember that you were there for me when I was going through a lot and had no one. So I will do my best to be here for you, now. In this life, you have to separate your mental and emotional things, your habits, your beliefs–like laundry. Whites over there, colors over there, delicates there. You can’t throw them all in together or the colors will bleed and what was once pure and white is now sullied. Some things must be kept apart, some things put together, and you always … Continue reading →

Posted in experience, grief, friendship, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, Social anxiety, lesbians, socializing, growth, EMOTIONS, frustration, sadness, Human Nature, anxiety, angst, courage, depression, hope, truth, despair, loneliness, celibacy, dating, Kelli Jae Baeli, guilt, intimacy, desperation, music, stress, honesty, women, sensitivity, PSYCHOLOGY, Jonatha Brooke, life, girlfriends, happiness, SEXUALITY, lies, RELATIONSHIPS, harsh realities, meaning, Social Psychology, disillusionment, conflict, communication, fear, ENTERTAINMENT, self-respect, Behavior, self-awareness, romance, PHILOSOPHY, anger, exes, reason, love, reality, betrayal | Leave a reply

Book Review: Valencia

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on October 25, 2011 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 24, 2013

One of the reasons I began writing lesbian fiction 25 years ago, was because I could not, at that time, find a kindred spirit in them. I could not relate to those characters, and their lives. The women in the pages of the lesbian fiction I read back then did not represent me, nor anyone I knew, or wanted to know. This offended me greatly. As for the book, Valencia, itself, the author does have some writing talent and I did notice a periodic turn of a phrase or insightful comment, but overall, these positives were overshadowed by everything else. … Continue reading →

Posted in Political Correctness, promiscuity, disillusionment, WRITING, self-respect, SEXUALITY, novels, Social Psychology, ethics, PHILOSOPHY, WRITING CRAFT, morality, truthiness, sex, honesty, Sociology, Behavior, Book Excerpt, Lesbian fiction genre, lesbians, BOOKS, Fiction Writing, truth, Book Reviews, lesfic genre, PSYCHOLOGY, lesbian literature, GENRES | Tagged Michelle Tea | Leave a reply

Turn, Turn, Turn

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on July 21, 2009 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 6, 2013

{reposted from Facebook} I just had a really unsettling experience. I’m trying right now to just calm my thumping heart, and take a breath. One thing that is no secret about me, is that I don’t have many secrets. I am pretty open. I have to be, because I am a creative person who produces creative material. But I don’t pretend that I’m so special that i don’t have a day to day life with day to day struggles and victories that i wish to share with those in my life. Nor do I pretend that human nature is always … Continue reading →

Posted in PSYCHOLOGY, self-awareness, rudeness, Sociology, annoying people, pariah, RELATIONSHIPS, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, self-respect, triggers, conflict, EMOTIONS, anger, Facebook, Behavior, music, betrayal, quirks, society, anxiety, past, ethics, Sensory Processing Sensitivity, exes, sadness, frustration, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP), Human Nature, TIME, nostalgia, sensitivity, friendship, honesty, stress, Social Psychology, angst, harsh realities, life, PHILOSOPHY | Tagged secrets | 27 Replies

On the Heels of…

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on June 20, 2009 by Kelli Jae BaeliMarch 5, 2013

  I had a marathon conversation last night with an ex from 10 years ago; and reconnected with her (Terra), via something she came across in my blog. The last half of the conversation created a feeling of great discomfort for me–both then, and this morning. My dreams were filled with people from the past, and anxiety tinted the start of my day. I was aware that in this phone conversation, I had slipped back into old habits and patterns of response and emotion. Our conversation was triggering me like a pack of firecrackers. She is, at the moment, inextricably … Continue reading →

Posted in RELATIONSHIPS, Relocation, annoying people, The Cognitive Dissonance of a God Cosmology, harsh realities, fatigue, TRAVEL, change, Sociology, self-awareness, conflict, BOOKS, disillusionment, CHALLENGES & MISHAPS, memories, problem-solving, midlife crisis, self-respect, EMOTIONS, moving, exes, anxiety, conversation, Denver, Colorado, lesbians, Depressive Realism, anger, sacrifice, frustration, Supernatural Hypocrisy, Driving, Sensory Processing Sensitivity, betrayal, music, Aging, novelist, angst, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP), sadness, depression, herniated disc, loneliness, SEXUALITY, disability, stress, injury, PSYCHOLOGY, Social Psychology, songwriter, life, triggers, HEALTH, RELIGION, writer | 4 Replies

Love Me, Love Me Not

Kelli Jae Baeli Posted on December 5, 2007 by Kelli Jae BaeliDecember 5, 2007

I had a long conversation with an old friend recently, and we were discussing the many women whom we’d both known over the years, who seemed to respond negatively to being treated well. This has happened to my friend more than it has to me, but the pervasive pattern is that when they are treated with care and respect and love, they begin to push against it, and in extreme cases, even begin to mirror/ reflect/project their own damage onto that person who is treating them well. We began to examine this, and it occurred to me that almost every … Continue reading →

Posted in romance, love, self-respect, abuse, dating, RELATIONSHIPS | Tagged respect | Leave a reply

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