Category Archives: Internet Dating

Fish Should Learn to Walk

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I think I’ve moved past my most recent dark night of the soul. This time it took about 7 weeks. Had a couple of things go my way, though, (finding a new apartment to move to, which I love), and an online relationship deepening into intriguing and exciting possibilities….possibilities that become pissabilities…As is the trend with my life, I don’t get anything good without an addendum of aggravation or disappointment. Some reminder that no, fortune does not often smile on me and the Luck Fairies either have a millennium-old vendetta against my soul, have no GPS, or are somewhat retarded. … Continue reading →

Hanging the Moon and Lesbian Monikers

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I placed another personal ad on Craigslist. Hopefully this won’t turn into a freak-fest like it did last time. And if it does, well, more material for my writing. LOL. The Ad I used before was way more humorous, but I was afraid it might be overwhelming and make ME look a little crazy. Who knows? Here’s the one I used before: Only seek LOCAL friends & dates. Please & thank you. LDR’s are usually doomed from the start. It’s like being pecked to death by chickens. So not big on them unless you can afford to travel to date … Continue reading →

New Review of ISO

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  Another review on my book “ISO (In Search Of): Dating, Relationships & Sex for the Discerning Lesbian”… “Whether you are a ‘baby dyke’, a newly out older woman or someone who has just been away from the ‘dating scene’ for a time, this book is an essential tool in your belt. Not only does Ms. Baeli provide thought provoking answers to all those obvious questions we all have, but you might find some information here about scenarios you had never even considered. Read it cover to cover or jump to the section you’re most interested in, either way you … Continue reading →

Fat Chance: Lament of a Transplanted Single

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Before moving here, I never had to worry about what my friends thought of me. They knew me. Sometimes for 10 or 20 years–a few of them longer than that. And I was in relationships usually. Serial monogamist. So I didn’t have to worry about the impression I made, or if I was going to get laid anytime soon, or whether there was someone to confide in, play with…now, it’s all new. New State, new city, new people, and SINGLE, though not NEWLY SINGLE. Aside from a five month relationship, I’ve been single for what? 4 or 5 years? Add … Continue reading →

Her Floxiness in 3D

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Yeah. Just as I suspected. Floxy turned out to be……..A spam-I-Need-your-help-in-the-form-of-your wallet…what do you think I should do, Dear Readers? Maybe I should contact her and tell her I am heartbroken that she only wanted my money and that I thought she might be “the one” and I want to marry her and have lots of babies. Hello Dearest , Thanks for your responds, i wen’t through your profile and fined it intresting the expression of love , How are you today?I hope this massage will find you in the best of your health, I really like to have a … Continue reading →

Ditto

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The word “Ditto” means another of the same, a duplicate, a copy. What I have been experiencing here, with people, is ditto. Just when I might feel my faith in people resurrecting, a little ditto happens and that faith is relegated to ashes again. Is everyone a ditto? I can’t possibly be the only one who feels this way, so why can’t I ever find those people? And why can’t one of them be my partner so that I can stop stumbling over the corpses of my own discontent? Writing can be solitary, and writing can be thankless. Real writers … Continue reading →

I’m having (gulp) good luck.

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Things seem to be trending my way. Anyone who knows my recent history knows that that is a milestone all by itself. I have been too isolated for a long time and have been trying to arrange a relocation to the Denver/Boulder area, but that’s a process that will take some time. Meanwhile, I wanted to have a social life again. So I placed an ad on Craig’s List. Now, if someone had told me this before, I would have done Craigslist instead of the 40 other dating sites. Hands down, I have had more luck meeting women because of … Continue reading →

Whining Pariah

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Colorado…….I’m sure there are kindreds out there (I do have a fabulous best friend, 2 hrs away, but i mean OTHERS). I am so anxious to meet all the people in the social groups I’ve joined online already. The degree to which I want this move is palpable; I can think of little else, and my level of stress reflects my fear that it might be delayed, or–unimaginably–not possible at all. Here, where I am, I always feel like a stranger in a strange land. I feel like the pariah. (Don’t forget, this is the Bible-Belt). I feel like most … Continue reading →

Catching Hell From the Hellish

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Even within my own “supposed” community, the community assigned to me by virtue of my sexual preference, I catch hell in the online dating realm, whenever I complain about the content of insipid emails from the dull and ignorant on personals sites. Misspelled words, fragmented sentences, fake modesty, transparent bravado, shallow beliefs, misplaced haughtiness, gender confusion, the walking wounded…. Sometimes I can’t believe it. Unfortunately, I have no choice but to believe it, because it’s true. It happens to me repeatedly, like some recurring rash… I continue to get those kinds of mails. I even started a special forum called … Continue reading →

Beautiful Blogist: Act 3

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4:01p I got my answer. Woke up at 3 and came down to check my inbox. . . I don’t normally leave things up to my girlfriends…but in this case, I don’t know what [BF] is thinking or what she would think. I know that though I feel a kinship with you, I didn’t have the intention of “relationship” in a romantic context…but I’m not sure how secure [BF] will be with someone coming in from out of town who I do resonate with on a certain level. Completely complex. She knows you were planning to come into town, but … Continue reading →

Beautiful Blogist: Act 2

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Email from Beautiful Blogist…. Ok…BF. and I are dating. weird, eh? I don’t really know exactly how it all happened…we were pretty much agreed that we were friends…and this weekend seemed like it was going to be like any other…and truthfully, I hadn’t ever really thought of her that way…maybe glimpses here and there…but the energy was there and things were stellar…I mean…it seemed meaningful, tender, all the things I’d hope for that sort of interlude to mean….and it was so much better because she’s my best friend. It’s hard to describe. I never got any of the weird feeling … Continue reading →

The Beautiful Blogist

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In my experiments with the Law of Attraction, I have been putting forth the intention of knowing and/or recognizing who my perfect partner is by how I feel, since that is both THE strongest and MY strongest sense that connects me to Higher Self and truth, and because it is connected to those brain chemicals that so often deny me the falling-in-love experience. I also know that it is a way for me to recognize my kindreds, as I resonate well only with those who are on a similar path and want similar thingsThat said, I am feeling something inexplicable … Continue reading →

Meltdowns, Irony & my Achilles Heel

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Fear is not the antecedent of abundance. I had another mini-meltdown last night. . . when I say meltdown, I don’t mean anything huge. . .just angst, tears, frustration, some sadness. . . It was in regard to someone I’ve been engaging. Some things have come up in my consciousness. I was aware of these things, but realized I was not thinking about them–purposely avoiding them, because to believe in that reality would suck away the good emotions I was having about talking to this womanthe Beautiful Blogist. She lives in another state, and after numerous lengthy emails about pretty … Continue reading →